In my post, “Let’s Illuminate Lives This Diwali” on 24 th October, I had shared a small video on the importance of Diwali by B K Shivani of Brahmakumaris spiritual movement, wherein she said that the best gift to be given to anybody is, “I accept you as you are.”

Today morning I came across a Japanese term, “Uketamo” that means in English, “Acceptance to the core” or “I accept with an open heart.”

When I read about it, I came to know that there is a little known mountain region, Dewa Sanzan in northern Japan. It’s used as a training ground by the Yamabushi monks for more than thousand years for self-development and self-discovery.

One of their training programmes is “The Lessons from Mountains”, in which participants are asked to climb mountains, cross rivers, sit under waterfalls etc through the forests. They have to follow the instructions of the Master without questioning him.

The only response from participants should be “Uketamo.” The purpose of the programme is to make them accept all the challenges in the journey with courage and acceptance to prepares them for their real life challenges.

Yamabushi monks believe that sooner you accept all the good and bad things thrown at you by the life, the lighter you feel. Uketamo helps us drop unnecessary expectations and enjoy the path ahead to growth.

For example, if you get struck in a traffic jam, a relationship gets strained beyond repair, or a leg gets broken and a long-awaited trip is to be cancelled, or any similar unpleasant experience, what options are there?

If you have the option, be creative and solve the problem, and move forward, but if there is no option, Uketamo.

Don’t blame yourself or regret, just embrace the realities of life and deal with them. It will lessen the pain

It doesn’t mean that you should accept  whatever comes to you, with folded eyes and hands. But we should stop fighting with things we can’t control or not in our hands. We can’t change everything in life as we wish.

Things are moving very fast, when we come across daily several unpredictable situations, when we don’t know how to respond. It’s then, we have to remind ourselves, Uketamo.

–Kaushal Kishore

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  1. I read about this before but didn’t follow it up. I’m glad you have posted this today and will look into it more deeply. Over the last few weeks there have been many difficulties and disappointments that are not in my control which have taken their toll on me. Thank you, Kaushal, for this timely prompt. 🙏

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    1. I’m sorry to know about your difficulties. Is it related to health? Take care, Ashley! This life brings all kinds of experience. I hope this too shall pass. Your vast knowledge will help you out. My best wishes and prayers 🙏💐

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  2. Wow. It’s a very beautiful concept, Kaushal ji. More than half of our problems could be solved if we practice Uketamo. Excellent information. ♥️♥️♥️😊😊😊😊

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  3. I never heard of these monks and their ways of letting go of control. This is a great learning tool of giving up our will and giving it up to a higher power or God. Thank you for sharing. I am book marking this as a reminder. Have a great day KK

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    1. So nice of you, Mary! In fact, I was also not aware of this concept till yesterday. But as they say, every day we learn something new. I’m glad you liked the post. Thank you!

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  4. Thank you, Kaushal, for the “uketamo” but I have for years now, apart from Tagore and Gandhi, a third thick volume of “Medications” by Marcus Aurelius,
    Roman emperor and stoic philosopher who lived during the period 121 -180 CE. He advocated not to desire things in your life as it leads to disappointments and to learning indifference to the brutalities of life if you have no power to change them. He also thought that denial of emotions is paramount to freeing a man from pain since allowing yourself to be affected by emotions is the sure way to be harmed by others. Those, and many other stoic rules helped me in life, and I admire his philosophy.


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    1. Thank you, Joanna, for talking about this great personality and his “Meditations”. I had read one or two quotes by him on accepting things to which fate binds us, but I have not read much about him. I’m glad that you told me about him. I’m happy that I learnt something new. Thanks again!


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