Pre-conceived Notions

Once a young boy in his twenties was travelling with his parents in a train. He was repeatedly peeping out of the train window and was screaming and laughing at the trees, plants and sky. His father was also excited and was treating him like a small child, “Look at the clouds, my son, they are also moving with us.”

A couple sitting in the compartment found it very strange and irritable too. They could no longer hold back and spoke to the young boy’s father,

“Don’t you think your son’s behavior is not normal. Why don’t you take him to a good doctor?”

The boy’s father replied, “Yes, we are coming from the eye hospital.”

“But why eye hospital?”

“Actually my son could not see, but today he is able to see for the first time in his life because of the successful operation of his eyes. He is very happy to see the wonders of the outer world.”

The couple were speechless with tears flowing in their eyes.

Friends, we very often form an opinion about a person, as soon as we see a person without knowing the background. We develop pre-conceived ideas about people without thinking and knowing their versions.

This reminds me of a true story, when I was heading a Zone, and used to go for surprise visits to branches. One day I reached a branch at 10 A.M. (usual opening time), but branch was locked, and three or four employees and a few customers were waiting for the branch to open. I asked some of them whether the branch opens late every day. They said, “No. Today is an exception.”

After ten minutes, BM, Narendra reached there. I asked the reason and his reply was, “My mother is terminally ill, sir. I had called doctor, who came late.” I asked him to take care of his mother, but in case, he had some urgent work, he should either take leave or hand over keys to the seniormost officer of the branch.

When my Regional Manager (RM), under whose control that branch was functioning, came to know about this lapse, he warned and transferred Narendra to another branch, but again as Branch Manager.

One day I was returning to headquarters after visiting some branch around 4.30 P.M., when I saw a branch shutters down. Usual closing time was 5.30. I asked the RM concerned who was the BM and was surprised to know that it was Narendra again.

I Iost my cool, and then and there, I asked my HR department to initiate disciplinary action against Narendra after transferring him to some remote place out of the present Region. This time I didn’t even like to know his version, as I had made up my mind that he was a serial offender.

But in the evening, I came to know that his mother had expired on that day and he had rushed to his home, abruptly closing the branch. I had erred in my judgement.

–Kaushal Kishore

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48 Comments

  1. Thank you, Kaushal, for the morality tales about the danger of preconceived judgments. The research in statistics established that it takes
    less than one minute for us to make up our minds on whether we approve of a stranger. My view is that if it is an error we should not only apologize but importantly put things right, especially if it is the company’s mistake.
    I like the photo of the handsome man in your presentation!

    Joanna

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    1. Thank you, Joanna, for your thoughtful comment! But there is nothing like company’s mistake. It was me, who erred in asking HR to initiate action against him, but no action was taken, as the whole matter came to be known in the evening, when I returned to hqrs. It’s a live example how the mind gets programmed after second incident of same nature in quick succession, and we should be careful.

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  2. Such an important message! I have read the prayer in Psalm 19: 13, many times: “Keep back your servant from presumptuous sins; let them not have dominion over me: then shall I be upright, and I shall be innocent from the great transgression,” and yet when temptation has come to presume, assume and judge, my mind has gone there, and yes, sometimes my words and actions, too. The result in overcoming this natural tendency is a “Wow!” It means we overcome “death,” because eating the fruit from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil (judging by appearances) is death to us. How we need to ask for the wisdom of God in every situation.
    God bless you Kaushal for giving us this much needed word.
    ❤️Michele

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    1. You’re absolutely right, Michele, we should try to overcome the general tendency for well being of all of us. Thank you so much for your kind words and blessings 💕

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  3. Kaushal, I know how hard it is to share posts like these (using ourselves as examples instead of just pointing the finger at others). Wow!!!! Beautifully written, beautiful soul.

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    1. Thank you, Lia, for your understanding. It’s only you, who have pointed this out. It’s really difficult to show oneself in bad light, but facts have to be told, if someone gets a lesson or two. Thanks again!

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  4. Its true. Sometimes, we are just faced with, what should you call it, incidents, happenings or whatever, that our judgements falter.

    Sometimes we let people take advantage of us, and sometimes we misjudge them.

    Messy business… 😦

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