Going Astray

Anand was a Probationary Officer, six years my senior, but looking to his qualifications in Engineering and Computers, he was placed in Computer Processing and Planning Department, but somehow he was drawn to share market. He studied the relevant literature and periodicals before taking a plunge.

He started investing diligently and earning handsome income within two years. He was an eyesore to his colleagues, as he started leading a lavish lifestyle and using air for his private trips too. Finally, Anand left the job and started his own consultancy firm.

But one of his colleagues, Suresh was ruined, as he started imitating him without equipping himself properly. He lost whatever he had and was heavily indebted. It was like a camel going to seek horns, but lost his ears. But kudos to him, he realised his folly and remained calm, cool and collected.

Ashok was another Probationary Officer in my Bank, who was from a middle class family, but his family arranged his marriage with a girl from an affluent family. Her hobbies were quite expensive and Ashok’s salary was not enough to meet her demands. He then started resorting to frauds. He lost his job and respect and landed himself in a jail.

Amit was an Assistant in the Bank, but his family boasted that he was an officer in the Bank. He got married to a family that was obviously superior to his in all respects. Every day he was being taunted by his wife and in-laws for committing frauds on the family and for being so low in status. One day his wife had gone to her house. Amit came from the bank, opened the door and hanged himself.

These are the three real stories that I have stated in brief, without adding any spice, just to drive the point home that misery comes from outside. If you don’t accept the external facts as your own fate, and rely on your own inner strength and will, nothing untoward will happen.

The most distressing case was of Amit. He saw the door locked and immediately decided to end his life. It is observed that people use fans more for committing suicides rather than jumping in a river.

The simple reason is that while walking to river, one finds time for himself to think and introspect or can meet someone who can stop or save him or her. That’s why, there is a saying in Hindi that one should count up to one hundred before taking a drastic step, as it gives sufficient time to think and rethink.

So long the life is there, miseries and sufferings will continue to come and go, but it’s all over much too soon. But the miseries as the result of thinking and comparing with others can end with rethinking only.

Remember, there are many ways to go astray, but one resolution is enough to reach the destination.

–Kaushal Kishore



  1. Oh my God! Other than the case of Anand, rest of the stories teach us a great lesson. We should be ourselves rather than trying to imitate others or try to prove something that we are not. Thank you for sharing these very interesting but thought provoking stories. ☺☺♥️♥️♥️

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    1. Thank you, Aparna ji for sharing your reflections. Actually we are much bothered about what others have instead of what we have. That’s the main cause of suffering.🤔💐💖

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  2. Three parables that bring home the misguided notion that “everyone has it better than I do”. The grass is always greener, etc. etc. It seems we are often not satisfied with our lot in life. What a shame; if we took the time to look inward instead of outward we would probably be pleasantly surprised. Here in The States we count to 10 to calm down or before making a big decision; I think taking the time to count to 100 is a far better idea! Thank you for sharing these pearls of wisdom, KK!

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    1. Everybody is well endowed in own respect, but we can’t recognise and assess its strength. We just compare what others have that we don’t have. We see who are ahead, not behind us. As I said, everything starts from thinking and also ends there. Thank you, Nancy for sharing your thoughts!

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  3. Thank you, Kaushal, for this morality tale, but the last tragic case is proof that we should teach
    people at home and primary school that life is a precious gift never to be wasted, that there is always a solution to every problem, and that the world is too beautiful to be abandoned.
    One lifetime is not enough to see the miracles that Nature created, and when unhappy, spending time among the trees, climbing mountains, seeing the stars above, and breathing in the fresh air will heal anyone.


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    1. I agree with you, Joanna, but I have seen even very knowledgeable and renowned preachers taking their own lives out of sheer frustration in depression. I think there should be more easily accessible helplines for such people in distress. But again, initiative has to be taken by the person concerned. You’re right, life is precious, nature’s bounty is so beautiful, but one should realise that he is precious not only to his family or society, but also to himself.

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  4. I feel so sad reading the story of Amit, even though the folly started with him and his family. The truth of life is, that one must persist even if it seems to be the end of all hopes. But when one gives up, others have to believe that his time had come and that it was the only way that he was destined to leave. Else, the sorrow of such a departure is too great than the departure itself.

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    1. Very well said, my friend! Thank you for sharing your beautiful reflections. I strongly believe in the two mantras – patience and perseverance. There is no problem in this world that has no solution. If there is a lock, its key is also there.


    1. I’m glad that you liked the stories and their message. The fact is that we are more worried about what others have. Thank you, Cindy for sharing your views as well 😊💐💖


    1. Thank you so much, my friend, for such a beautiful reflection. There are so many people under depression for various reasons. I’m glad that you are going to share this post with some of your friends. Thanks again.


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