Too Big Too Little

Happiness is a state of mind. There are people who have everything under the sun but still feel miserable. On the contrary, there are people who have nothing, but always feel great joy.

I have a friend, Rakesh, a sport enthusiast, who is suffering from prostate cancer and presently undergoing treatment at a hospital, but whenever I talk to him, I always find him in a jolly and upbeat mood. He is happy that he is getting the best treatment available and is sure to win this battle, as he used to win matches for our college team.

Rakesh is not alone. There are people with serious health and other complications, but they don’t bother about the shortcomings and deficiencies, and even if they consider, they think it minuscule compared to what they have.

If we take the diameter of the earth as compared to distance between earth and Sun, the diameter of the earth can be said to be too small, but if we compare the same diameter of earth with the size of a grain, diameter of the earth can be said to be too big.

So it all depends on the context, and the matrix or scale of comparison. The same relationship exists between richness and poverty, or between happiness and sadness.

If my income is more than my wants, I’m rich, but if my wants are more than my income, I’m poor. It’s so simple. A simple mathematics of numerator and denominator. I consider myself rich because my wants are far less than my income. Anybody can be rich, if he or she adjusts by progressively reducing the wants within his or her income.

So the mathematics works in our mind. If we think that what we have are too little compared to what others have, we’ll never be happy. Such negative thoughts impair both body and soul.

And it’s so natural, as right from early in the morning till the time we go to sleep, we are bombarded with negative thoughts, news and vibes either through mobile phones, newspapers or television. Our thoughts are shaped by what we see, read and listen to.

Then what to do? The only option is to counter such thoughts with positive thoughts, and positive thoughts can be created by positive affirmations, e.g. “I’m happy, I’m healthy, I’m peaceful, I’m fearless, I’m giver, I don’t need anything, my business is doing well, success is certain of me, I accept people and people accept me etc etc…”

Positive affirmations are like resolutions irrespective of whatever position we are in. It may look like lying to oneself. But resolutions lead to accomplishments. Reiteration of these positive phrases or statements every night before sleeping and every morning after getting up, does help in challenging and reframing negative thoughts.

I have seen it happening.
Just think, speak and see it happen. Happiness is not by chance, but by choice.

The only thing that will make you happy is being happy with who you are.Goldie Hawn


–Kaushal Kishore


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34 Comments

  1. Your essay, Kaushal, gives valuable points on how to be happy. Without a doubt, you are one of the wisest people I know, but long before you were born, two Indian sages, both loved and revered by me, gave this advice:
    “Always try to represent yourself as happy. Initially, it becomes your look, gradually, it becomes your habit, and finally, it becomes your personality.”
    Swami Vivekananda

    “There is enough for everyone’s need, not for everyone’s greed. If we start fulfilling our greed, days of our extinction will increase at a much faster rate.”
    Mahatma Gandhi

    If I could add my tuppence worth though, it is that working for the benefit of others, people or animals with a passion will always make us happy.

    Thank you for your patience, Kaushal, sir.

    Joanna
    PS, I don’t know why all these irrelevant details appeared here, I will get rid of them shortly.

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    1. There is nothing irrelevant here, Joanna! Whatever you write here comes direct from your heart that I always appreciate. Quotes of Swami ji and Gandhi ji will remain relevant for ages to come. I’m grateful to you that you have shared here. I think, Lao Tzu had also said, watch your thoughts that become your words, words become actions, actions become habits and habits become character. So it all starts with one’s thoughts. I agree that working for others always gives immense pleasure.
      Thank you, Joanna, for your generous praise that I accept with humility, as it comes from you.

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  2. This is a wonderful post KK! The less we have the less we have to care for which can dwindle (like you said in your last post). our pleasure. Do the math.. love that. I see this all of the time. I always wish everyone could be rich so they could find this out and not bellyache so much. In turn to nothing as it’s amazing what we don’t really need. 💖💖💖

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    1. Very well said, Cindy! I’m glad that you resonate with me in this regard. Our needs are in fact very limited, but we tend to clutter our mind, life or even mobile. Thank you so much for sharing your beautiful reflections 😊💖💐

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  3. Simple thought on how to be happy . Very nice article . It is the mind which makes us disturbed . If your mind is in peace , I think , tranquility would be all around you . Anyway , your article is wonderful . I personally do meditation at about 3.30 AM early in the morning to keep my mind in perfect order . And if mind is in peace , happiness will be all around . Thanks !

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    1. So glad to know the timing of your meditation. I’m impressed. I agree a peaceful mind is necessary for our happiness and well being. Mind keeps wandering even when body sleeps in the night. Thank you for reading and sharing your beautiful thoughts!

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  4. So very true! Happiness is definitely a state of mind. As you say, people can go through difficulties in life yet feel truly blessed; and those who have minor bumps (which are part of this course in life!) can feel like they don’t have anything at all.
    Beautifully written and a great inspiration! 😊

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    1. I’m happy that this article resonates with you. If you want to be happy, you can find hundreds of reasons. It all depends on our own mindset. Thank you for such a thoughtful comment 😊

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