Dental Drill

Yesterday I had been to a dentist, Ashish, close to my place to replace a cap. I was visiting him for the first time. He is young and dynamic, and his clinic is well equipped with latest equipments like digital sensor with monitor etc. I came to know about him from my neighbours.

He has a receptionist cum attendent, Anuja, who is in her late fifties. While sitting on the dental chair, I needed more water to rinse my mouth.

Instead of pressing the call bell, he called her, but she was busy attending to a patient, and might not have heard him. He called her again, this time more loudly, “Annu.”

When she came inside, he shouted at her in my presence, “Don’t you listen to me? I called you twice. Refill the water.”

His tone was offending, and I could see how humiliated she was feeling. In fact I get myself humiliated when someone is humiliated in my presence, that too at her age. In my first interaction, she appeared to be a humble and good-natured lady.

The relationship between the two was of employer-employee, but should one forget the human angle? Does it give a right to employer to behave so rudely with his employees? I started pondering.

After treatment, I politely said to him,

Anuja is of your mother’s age. She must be working under you due to her difficult family circumstances. If you talk to her politely, she will feel happy working with you, and you will also feel a sense of joy and satisfaction. You’re a doctor, you must be knowing that it takes 17 muscles to smile while 43 to frown.”

Ashish obviously didn’t like my intervention or this unwanted sermon and started arguing, “Sir, you don’t know, she is a moody lady, she doesn’t understand the language you are advocating.”

I presume I have landed myself once again in a precarious situation by giving an unsolicited advice. I meekly said, “Ok, just give a try, and see the difference.”

I hope and pray that his scary dental drill machine will not spin and drill more than needed, when I visit him next.😊☺️

–Kaushal Kishore

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    1. May be, Eunice. I can give him the benefit of doubt. But he can’t displease his own employee, as it was apparent from her face. Thank you 😊

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  1. Kaushal Ji. You are far more patient and forgiving than i am. Had i had been there, i would have certainly excused myself as i wouldn’t have liked to exchange any pleasantries with an illiterate doctor.

    I will hope that you find a better person and a doctor. And if you are in Delhi, i can certainly suggest somebody.

    Thank you for sharing Kaushal Ji.
    Narayan x

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    1. Thank you, Narayan ji for responding so well. I can understand your feelings. I have no complaints against his knowledge or experience. I had a grudge against his human dealings. It nullifies the whole personality. But I always believe and give a second chance, when it comes to one’s behaviour. If he doesn’t improve, my choices are open. Thanks a lot for your offer, but I’m not in Delhi.

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  2. Firstly, let me tell you, Kaushal, that I do my best never to go to a dentist, and rinse my mouth with salty water several times a day, and after every meal. I learned this from my grandmother, who never been to a dentist, and had perfect teeth.

    Secondly, better find another dentist, as I would not dare to see him again, or even like to see him.

    As always, your behavior was human!

    Thank you.

    Joanna

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    1. Your saline treatment is really good, Joanna. Incidentally I lost my tooth while playing in a ground in early childhood. I’ll definitely visit another dentist next time, if he remains unchanged, but if he improves by sheer chance, I’ll feel happy. Thank you.

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      1. Changing dentists won’t do any good, Eunice. Extraction is the only way out, if RCT is not possible to retain that tooth. Wisdom tooth extraction is a bit difficult, but local anaesthesia will keep you at ease. Don’t worry much. Take advice from a good dentist and go ahead.

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  3. Dear KK, oh dear! I too recently paid a visit to the dentist, routine check and nothing was found, however, the dentist, a young man in his late 20s early 30s commented that I had an awful lot of fillings! I just shrugged my shoulders and mumbled something but the reality is that all those fillings were done before I was into my middle teens! Dentists then were paid by the number of teeth worked on! I’ve never trusted them since! Find another dentist! πŸ˜ŠπŸ™‹β€β™‚οΈ

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    1. I have no grudge against his professional acumen. I’m fully satisfied with his treatment and the cap. I’m not a social reformer, but if a person improves his behaviour due to my intervention, it will be my sweet pleasure. Otherwise, choices are open, as suggested by you. Thank you, Ashley for sharing your detailed experience. It may come handy in future.πŸ™πŸ’

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  4. I love that you spoke up , KK. You are obviously an empath and felt for the lady. Good on you. I hope that his dislike of your unsolicited advice does not derail you from speaking up again if ever put in a similar situation. Wonderful post. Keep shining.❀️

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    1. Oh yes, Grace, I’m an incorrigible optimist. It doesn’t matter whether one changes himself or not, I have to do my duty. Thank you so much for your loving and inspiring words. I deeply appreciate πŸ™πŸ’πŸ’–

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  5. Always inspirational thoughts Sir. Really most of the employers are authoritative n very few would emphasize like you advised. Be careful when you visit him next time as you mentioned at the end πŸ˜‡πŸ™πŸ™

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    1. Hahaha, you noticed the last line. I had made it bold to add some funny flavour. Thank you, Suma for sharing your beautiful thoughts πŸ˜ŠπŸ’–

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  6. oh KK sorry to hear this and yes, best leave while the leaving is good but you are smart not to “piss him off”. I know this experience well and was at the other end of wishing I’d kept my mouth shut.. πŸ’– good luck with your teeth my friend. πŸ’–

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    1. Wow! Such a great experience! Thank you, Cindy for sharing it. All sorts of people are there in this world. Fortunately, with fixing of the cap, I’m done with the treatment.

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  7. I loved reading this KK sir as everytime.. thank you for sharing this with us…
    People these days hardly know what and how to speak and treat others. everyone is in a race don’t know to where..empathy, well manners etc are are very hardly seen in real.

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    1. Whatever you have said, Ananya, is a fact. Human values are getting eroded. Soft skills are utterly lacking. This has something to do with the education system too. Students are advised to score high, IQ is high, but EQ is low. In such a scenario, I prefer a mid-way approach. Thank you. Stay happy.

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  8. πŸ˜† your thoughts of his dental drill is hilarious. I hope he’s more professional than to do that. No fear.
    I love that you raised your voice to speak on behalf of another who couldn’t (or wouldn’t) for various reasons. It takes one like you to bring attention to his attitude which we hope he’ll ponder on and change. We need more voices at the right time like yours, KK.

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  9. Thank you for pointing it out.
    Some employers behave as though they are doing their employees a HUGE favour to have them work for them as though them the employers could have done the work themselves, had they not had employees.

    It’s really a sad working space lately between employers and employees.

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    1. You’re right, Jermena. We should never forget that we are humans first. Mutual love and respect is the basis of any relationship. But there are aberrations in the society due to such deviant behaviour. And they should be treated accordingly. Thank you for taking time to read and share your beautiful thoughts 😊

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