The Other Side

There are people who never want to see the dark side of the life. They don’t even want to talk. It may be a good approach that breeds positivity. Even in this pandemic, they feel optimistic, “this too shall pass.” Yes, it shall pass, but not for those, who have lost their near and dear one(s). We can simply empathise with such families, but they can’t just wish their gloom away so easily.

The fact remains that whatever is there in this world has been created by God -both good and evil, the two sides of the same coin. Where there is no good, we see evil.

Can we imagine the existence of cold without realising what is heat? Similarly, there is no darkness, it is just the absence of light. For us, both Sun and Moon are important. We can segregate the things at will and choose the good ones for us, but can we do it without knowing what is bad? I think for developing a well rounded personality, we must appreciate both sides.

I remember when I was hardly twelve, my mom gave me one hundred rupees to go alone from Varanasi to see Lucknow. The experience I gained during my solo visit was more than reading ten books. The low EQ among today’s children is due to the fact that we are always ready with our protective umbrella and don’t allow them to see the other side.

I feel that absence in a way gives a feeling of presence, because if someone is absent, we miss him or her and if we really miss, that means he or she is present in our heart.

–Kaushal Kishore

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  1. IT is never an option to choose between the darkness and the light , but for you to accept, the truth about everything in life because the Darkside was created for us to understand the light.

    Only time is in control of everything that is why we have day and night ,so to does who are still in the darkness give them time to grow up ,they will catch up with the light soon

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    1. That’s a different perspective. What I wanted to convey was that you have to know the dark side to know the importance of light. Time is supreme, I agree. Thank you.

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  2. Dear KK, goodness, and evil cannot be two sides of the same coin. How could one compare what Hitler and others have done with the work of Mother Theresa or other wonderful people, Saints or not!!

    If you crave to know about the dark side, just watch the News.
    Otherwise, stick to smelling roses. At least you will feel better.

    Joanna
    PS. You cannot grieve for all the people affected by wars, the pandemic or famine.

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    1. My context was entirely different, Joanna. I may not have explained in the way you wanted to understand. Nobody is saying Hitler was better than Mother Theresa. My only contention was that we should know the evil side also to know the importance of goodness. I don’t have any comment on grieving for one or all. Thank you.

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  3. It takes darkness to make us appreciate the light and evil to make us appreciate the good. This too shall pass. I find nothing wrong in being optimistic. Yes, it will not bring back the people we have lost. Nothing ever will. What has happened has happened. At least, if this pandemic ends, we won’t lose more people!

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    1. I’m not saying, Shweta not to be optimistic. I’m concerned about the feelings of those who have lost their near and dear ones. For them, it shall not pass, as for others. Thank you for sharing your perspective!

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  4. We have to know hardship to appreciate the good times, no matter how small. If everything is handed to us or too carefully controlled, we do not appreciate what we have. Stay well. Allan

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  5. Yin and yang, we don’t know one without the other 💜 I can definitely see how missing someone can make them more present, even if it’s only in our hearts. Remembering them is the light in the darkness. Some feelings may not pass like others. I pray for everyone that has lost someone and hope they can also see the light in the darkness 🙏

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    1. Very well said! Loved the way you have deliberated upon. I fully concur. Thanks a lot for taking your time to read and share your beautiful reflections 🙏

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  6. With this post, you have set people thinking, questioning, and hopefully learning, and that includes me! I love your phrase “absence…gives a feeling of presence” and agree! I experience the dark and look for the light 🙏

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    1. Thank you, Ashley for your thoughtful words and support. Let God lead all of us to light. Thanks a lot for your beautiful thoughts on this 🙏💐

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  7. Very well said.
    Life is a roller coaster , full of ups and downs. Yes, practical experiences give better lessons than what books can deliver. It is the situation they face in life which draft the person into what they become..
    🙏🙏🙏

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  8. By your description, actually darkness and light are not equal, darkness simply being the absence of light. Evil is the same type of ‘non-entity’ as darkness. It is not a ‘real thing’ in and of itself; it is only the absence of what is good, or a perversion of the good. I.e,. lust is evil, but it is simply the perversion of love; greed is evil, but it is only the perversion of desire for good things.
    So light, good, love and desire CAN and DO exist even if the evil ‘absence’ of these things did not exist.
    God is the Source of all light and He said Jesus is the Light of the world.
    Ying and Yang make good and evil equal sides of the same coin, which does not fit with reality.
    Thanx for your thought provoking blog! Always good to read what you write, Kaushal. c.a.

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    1. What I meant to say is that there is a link between EQ and the reading of books for children because reading reveals worlds and ways of thinking that are alien to the individual living in a vacuum.

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      1. That goes without saying, Venz. Books are the gates to the world. The importance of books cannot be underestimated. Thanks for your beautiful reflections 😊💐

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  9. KK, Thought-provoking post. I first encountered the idea that there would be no “good” without “evil” to compare it to when, as a high school student, I asked, “If God is good and all-powerful. why does he permit evils to exist? Why do we have war, disease, and sadness?”

    The explanation that good cannot exist without evil was the best available answer at the time, but not entirely satisfactory. It still isn’t entirely satisfactory, but I don’t think there is a better answer. The question then becomes, how can we best use the knowledge of this reality to live our lives?

    All the best!

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    1. A very reasoned and considered response, Cheryl. Thanks for taking time to read and share your beautiful thoughts.

      What I understand is that God has created all good things only. We ourselves have distorted those things to our advantage, giving entirely different and diametrically opposite shapes. It is therefore more necessary to understand those distortions and deformities to appreciate the real things that God had created. So goodness can exist without evil, if we really wish so, and know what is what.

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  10. Yes, that’s right. Very well said, KK. There is so much protective gear on kids these days, that they don’t learn independence. I look at things on the bright side when darkness overwhelms me, it is better that way, otherwise, you tend to let it take hold of you.
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    1. Thanks a lot, Shobana for reading and sharing your considered views. I fully resonate with you. My mom used to tell me that there is a cycle of good and bad days. One comes in, other goes away.
      I had seen your video regarding your book blog. Thanks for the invite. I’ll try to submit.

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  11. Thanks for your post. I love it and believe that I understand the point you made. My only comment is to :
    “this too shall pass” which has become a cliche. But personally it only means that nothing lasts forever; not even grieving. The sad truth is that no one grieves for life. This is evident in those who remarry after a spouse’s death.

    Love this: absence in a way gives a feeling of presence, because if someone is absent, we miss him or her and if we really miss, that means he or she is present in our heart. 😍

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    1. I appreciate your viewpoint. It happens. Time is said and believed to be the best healer. It takes time. Remarriage may be an option, but I have seen a number of people, who didn’t marry again. In one of my old posts, I have mentioned one of my best teachers how he took care of his kids after demise of his wife. Perceptions vary. Thanks a lot for your thoughtful comment 😊

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